Just an aro ace girl with a lot of emotions. Too many emotions apparently because this is the second one I had to make, the first ones full lol.
I write short stories and poems,
Rants,
Talk about aroace coded songs or really anything, movies, shows...
I know for a fact I've talked about this before probably in my first aroace rants book but I saw it again and I just it will always piss me off. And I'm pissed off a out a lot rn bc I tried to find the part I posted about originally. couldn't find it but I saw a lot of old rants and they brought up those feelings lol.
Anyway
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This image will always piss me off. I genuinely do not understand the "hierarchy of love" I've seen so many videos lately like ranking family, friends, boyfriend.
Like you can't rank love. It's infinite. But I guess not everyone views it that way.
Like I definitely hold platonic love closer to my heart than romantic love but that's bc I don't have a person I love romantically and I think universally all love for people hold the same value. But like in my personal world I don't have a romantic relationship so it's easy to say I put platonic love first because I seek that out more but if I ever do fall romantically in love I would love them the same amount as my family and best friend.
I feel like crashing out bc I can't hate being aroace there's nothing wrong with it and if i publicly hate it then other aspecs might start to hate it too and I don't wanna spread that negativity. And like allo people genuinely scare me sometimes. I don't want to be allo. I just want a space for platonic love to thrive but it's so impossible bc people romantize everything and call you boring or fun police or whatever when you wish things were different. Media is so fucking hard for me to consume bc even mostly romance free or romance free fiction gets romantized by fans and so I can't go into spaces with other fans and enjoy the art with people who like the same things as me and I get everyone has a different perspective and opinion and eveyone should have fun doing what they want in media but if the roles were revered and I took an obvious romantic couple and said "loveee tbeir platonic love. They're so platonic it's obvious! They are not romantically together it's more than that they are definitely friends" people would riot so why is every freaking friendship romantized?
Amatonormativity is why.
Bc eveyone sees frienship as a step down from romance.
So if two people are really close kts "they aren't just friends!"
Uggggggg. Ahhh.
I forget what the orgianl point even was. I'm just uuuuuuuuhggggggg.
Because I know it's never gonna change.
And I've said it on here before but it makes me worried for my book.
Bc at the end of the day the world is not black and white it's grey. There's nucance to everything and when I put my work out into the world I am subjectting it to that nuance and everyone will have a different opinion on it so I have to be able to accept that.
It's just difficult and like I have this feeling inside me I can't get rid of and that's part of the reason I started writing my book and made my character Rue the way she is. Maybe me and her can find a way to embrace the feeling together.
Anyways thanks for listening. I hope you all have a wonderful day/night. Take care 💚💜
