Recovery

Advice I Will Give My Daughter On Dating A Boy

1. Don't date a boy who cancels his plans last minute. Especially if it's canceling for someone else. You are not a second choice. You are not a third choice. You are a first choice or you are nothing to him. Do you understand me baby? You are worth so much more than that, don't let him push you around.

2. If he's rude to you, drop him. I don't care how many times he says "Just kidding" or "Baby, I didn't mean that." You keep your head up, your shoulders straight, your chin high, and you demand to be treated as the goddess you are.

3. If he doesn't hold your hand in front of his friends or wrap his arms around you when you're with his family, then he's not worth it. Date someone who can't keep his hands off you. Date someone who aches with the need to feel their skin on yours.

4. Make sure he has goals, aspirations, dreams. Make sure he has a plan of some sort. If he doesn't, what are you two supposed to talk about? What are your 2am conversations going to look like?

5. Find out his hobbies and interests and make sure they are similar to yours. If you want to travel, date someone who will drop what they're doing just to take you on a random adventure. You don't want to be stuck with someone who's idea of a good time is sitting on his futon with cheesy Doritos fingers while you watch him play video games.

6. If your brother doesn't like him or he rubs your sister the wrong way, trust their instinct. There's probably a reason. I can guarantee you, darling, if you bring him home and we can see in his eyes that you light up his entire world, then we will love him just as much as you do.

7. Baby, if he ever lays a finger on you, you fucking leave him. Don't think twice, don't look back and don't you dare accept his apology two days later.

8. if you can't trust him you shouldn't be dating him. if you have to go through his phone to sleep better at night, he's not the one for you.

9. You're going to fight, you're going to argue, that is all part of a relationship. But baby, if he is contradicting everything you say, solely for the sake of an argument, then just walk away. 

10. I've seen anger in your grandfather's eyes. I saw it everyday for 17 years baby. If losing a football game makes him so mad as to not want to speak to you, then you are giving yourself to the wrong boy. He's going to grow, he's gonna get meaner, and he's going to hurt you. Leave now.

11. If his laugh doesn't claw its way into your memory and his smile doesn't make you feel like the entire universe is right in front of you, then you are wasting your time.