Recovery

12 Things Every Young Girl Needs To Remember

1. At some point in your life, someone you love dearly is going to die. Be prepared for that day because my love, it will hurt like you've never been hurt before and leave you bleeding for years to come.

2. Just because you love him, it does not guarantee that he will love you back or be even remotely interested in you.

3. "I love you" does NOT mean "I'll never leave you." Neither does it mean "I love ONLY you."

4. Some days you'll miss him, it's okay to let him know it but if he makes you feel embarrassed about it or if he seems indifferent about it, then baby girl I don't care how much you miss him after that, you hold it in. You cry into a pillow on the nights that it's too hard while wishing he would understand, but you never repeat it. I can tell you that it gets easier.

5. If a man wants you in his life, he will keep you there and if not, don't fight for a place in his life.

6. You should never have to fight for his attention, no matter what the other option may be.

7. It will hurt when you stop talking as frequently as you used to and you will try to pull him back; don't. If he really wanted to talk to you, he would. I know it's confusing  and you ask  yourself time after time again what you did wrong, but the answer is simple as there was nothing you could have done.

8. I know it's hard to go without hearing his voice when it had been your drug for so long but you know what? Addicts have kicked their drug habits in the past and so can you. I know it's going to take a lot of sleepless nights and hurt and confusion but you can do it.

9. It's okay to still love him, even after all that. But my darling, stop making yourself weak just so he could feel strong. I know you love him, and I know you will do anything for him but you have to remember your self worth.

10. If he makes you feel like another option among the other women in his life, as much as it hurts young girl, begin to distance yourself from him. Take it one day at a time. Each day, create a little more distance till you can finally let him go. You're NEVER just an option. You're a choice and a damn good one.

11. If you find yourself spending more time with the memories of him and of the past conversations than time communicating with him, there's something wrong. Address this.

12. I know it hurts and you feel like you'll never love again but remember that one time when you had a crush on that one boy and eventually you got over it and started liking this boy? Yeah.