Secret Love Nest

Romance is Important

Busy. Busy. Busy.

When you are both working in a highly stressed cutthroat style show business, being busy and not having time for some love dovey is a common occurance.

Qing ah in particular is working almost non stop. Recordings here, interviews there. Photoshoots here, guestings there. Fansignings here, script readings there. He is all over, in every direction. His schedule is jam packed. And I'm not so different. This past month, I felt like a squirrel running around and round trying to get all my nuts collected and done. And I feel like I haven't done enough.

Suffice it to say, with schedules like ours, romance took the back seat. Dates are put aside, sex took form as quickies in the shower and lingering kisses and cuddles are almost non existence. But a guy had to do what a guy had to do and these two guys had to work.

But romance is important in a relationship. And I mean really REALLY important so that even though I'm not a fan of quickies but Qing made it hot and sexy and fun that I give in. My motto became "it's better than nothing"

And you would also think that since we are both male, we have limited ideas about romance. Oh my boy you will lose that bet. My Qing and I knew romance, lots and lots of romance and not just the sexy variety type.

There's the melt your heart style. Finding a note inside your bag with your man's handwriting will give you serious rush of warmth in your blood. The note goes like this...

"Don't forget to eat my Little Squirrel. Fighting"

Short and sweet. I love it. Especially when the note smells like Qing's favorite cologne.

The heartfelt romance. Waking up beside Qing gave me the most pleasure in life but that can't happen everyday. But finding breakfast ready and my vitamins lined up on the table made up from the fact that he had to run out early to work.

"Don't forget your vits. I'll worry if you don't. I love you..."

This is the reason I always took my vits. No need to make my man worry for me, he had enough worry on his plate.

Then there's the making me cry romance. It's when he somehow knew that I'm feeling bad and he will order my favorite comfort food to be delivered to me. Then he will message me on my phone.

"Whatever it may be, just remember that I'm here. Just call out to me and I will come to you. Always..."

Now if you don't fall for that, you need to have your heart checked out in the hospital. Maybe you are dead and it's not beating anymore.

Qing is the sweetest guy I know. Darn it, he's sweeter and more thoughtful than me. But for him, I'm the treasure he had to guard zealously. A love he had to nurture and give excellent care. I'm the angel, his salvation and redemption. I'm his prize and reward for being patient and good. He said I'm the best thing that happened to him. That I deserve more than what he can give. But at the same time, he would never let me go...

"I can't give you all that you deserve to have but all I know Dayu is that no one on this Earth will love you more than I do..."

Awwwwwwww...there I said it for all of you.

Don't get me wrong I'm romantic too. I also made sure that he eats and took his vits. I made sure that all his clothes are in mint condition and his things are organized. I also took the time to learn to make smoothies for him. Enery boosting smoothies, stress relieving smoothies, protein rich smoothies, healthy smoothies etc etc...

I'm also currently interested in massages but I've been busy so...maybe for our anniversary. A nice soothing body massage for my man. Nice eh?

Romance can come in a lot of forms. Personally, I don't find gifts romantic. It's the thought of the gift giver that interest me more. Sure, receiving the latest model of phone or a pair of expensive earrings or maybe even a limited edition pair of shoes gave you nice feelings but the same can be said to receiving a box of cheap chocolates that reminds you of your childhood. Or a pair of socks with prints of your favorite cartoon character. And of course nothing beats receiving a book, especially if it's written by your favorite author. The phrase "Its the thought that counts" shouldn't be underestimated.

That's me. But if you ask Qing, if you have the courage and the nerve to ask him, goodluck with that, what's the most romantic gift I gave him. If he's honest, he will say this....

"Sex coupons."

Yup, that's his version of romance. Actually I'm the one to blame for this. His birthday is fast approaching and I still had no idea whatsoever as to what I can give him as gift. So I did what every smart and full of ideas guy do, I turn to internet. I just typed "Ideal gift for your lust crazed boyfriend." Let me tell you guys, a LOT has popped up on my screen. Like a million ideas was given to me. Some of it scares me to death (but some I listed under the folder "to try later"). So I go with the safer one, sex coupon. You want a step by step on how to make one. Okay...

"How to make sex coupons by Feng Jian Yu" (copyright not included)

Step one: Find several colored papers. Cut them in one rectangular size. They have to be similar in size (It will depend on you on how many papers you will need)

Step Two: Write your name and the name of the recipient of the coupons on the side of each paper.

Step Three: Bring out your sexy side and write all the sexy thoughts you have for your spouse/partner/girlfriend/boyfriend. Write those thoughts in the papers. (Ex: Washing the dishes wearing sexy aprons and nothing else while your man can watch) (Another Ex: Impromptu phone sex or video sex when you are apart) (Dig deep and you will get there)

Step Four: Gather all the made up coupons and fasten them all together. (You can do it by using stapler or a piece of string or like me I made a little binder and put the coupons there so it will be easy for Qing to browse and choose.)

Step Five: Present your coupons to your partner. (I'll admit that I had my doubts if I'm doing the right thing for me) (Oh I had no doubts that Qing would love it, sex starved fiend that he is)

Step Six: Watch your partners reaction. See how his face turn from questioning to serious to amused to triumphant. (Him looking at me like I'm his favorite piece of expensive steak he can't wait to taste is not flattering but it's his birthday so I just had to man up) Then you are done. Just remember that you can't regret your life choices, you made them.

Qing went through those coupons like a man possessed and he still had the nerve to ask for more. (Sex crazed jerk!)

Last week he is hinting that he wants at least five books of sex coupons as a gift for our anniversary. He even suggested that I can repeat and repeat the acts on the coupons and he won't complain. (I could just strangle him but he's cute while asking that so...eh)

Romance can be fun. It can be creative. Warm. Heartfelt. Or make your blood rush so fast you will feel dizzy while making sex face. Either way, being romantic and thoughtful on your significant other can't hurt.

We all have romance in our hearts after all...