Secret Love Nest

Don't be a Jack of all Trade

Look at me be a paragon wife...

It's the weekend. Weekends are the days when Qing is busiest, with shooting his show and studying for his upcoming film.

Me on the meantime finds myself free during weekends. I spend those free time here at home doing chores. Like arranging groceries in the kitchen and pantry. Doing laundry, ironing some items and what I am currently doing now, sorting clothes.

I have a system in sorting our older clothes. I ready a box in front of me before I started separating clothes that we will not use anymore but I can still donate from clothes we can't give out anymore because they are in a state of total annihilation. Those I can tweak a little to use as rags in the house.

If I don't do this, we will need to build another walk in closet just to accomodate Qing's clothes. He has lots of clothes, from formal attires to casual to his exercise outfits to his indoor clothes. And I am not different from him in that aspect, our closet is bursting with shirts, pants, jackets, underwears. Not to mention ties, scarves, hats, shoes and socks.

My solution? Every four months or so I would arrange our closet, take out the older items so I can sort them into "donate" and "please don't donate this anymore cause it will be shameful" categories. I've only done this twice since living with Qing.

Right now I have tons of old clothes to sort out. And if that is not enough to give you an image of me as a dutiful housewife, I am doing this chore while I watch dramas on the TV. Ha!

As you all know, I love "wuxia" dramas. Dramas with theme from the past, like emperors, prince and princess with soldiers and dynasty wars. Those kinds of dramas and movies. I enjoy them.

But watching dramas for me are not solely for entertainment anymore. It also become educational. As an actor, I was advised by my acting coach to watch my favorite actors (like Alec Su) in action. Look for clues and techniques that I can apply on my own acting.

I was also asked by my coach about what kind of actor do I want to be. He said I have a sweet, boy next door, idol, matinee feel. I can do romantic themed dramas.

But I said I wanna be a versatile actor. One who can do the good guy and the villain role efficiently. I said I don't want to box or stereotype myself into one role. I want variety, I want to challenge myself and I am willing to work hard and learn from anyone willing to teach me to be that kind of actor. I think I impressed my coach with that answer.

Qing taught it to me. To decide what I really want to do and to concentrate on those things.

Me: (while we are sitting together and reading) I want to try everything. Performing, acting and maybe hosting and varieties too.

Qing: (also with book in hand) That's a bad idea.

Me: Why?

Qing: (putting down his book and look intently at me) Let's say you learn to do them all, but can you do them all properly? Are you confident that you can be the top singer, actor and host? All at the same time?

Me: (grew quiet while thinking)

Qing: Of course not! Dayu, you can't be a "Jack of all trade but a Master of none". That will be a disaster for your career. Better stick to one or two of your talents and learn them until you become a master.

Me: But what about you? You sing, you act and you host!

Qing: I love hosting, I am learning from my seniors a lot. Acting is a challenge I want to take until I can be the best in it. Singing, I did it cause I was given an oppurtunity. I won awards, yes and I am very grateful for that but I can see myself acting and hosting more than performing. That's why I am studying hard to be an actor and a host.

Me: Ahhh....

Qing: Stick to performing and acting. You already started on that path and you show certain flair on both of them. Hosting can come to you along the way, but I suggest that you concentrate on your singing and acting careers.

Me: (looking at him suspiciously) Are you saying that because you don't want me as a competition on hosting?

Qing: (laughs confidently) You? My competition? Ah Dayu, I never compete with anyone, my only competition is Wang Qing, nobody else.

I ground my teeth together at his arrogant reply. But that's Wang Qing, he is so arrogant he can use himself as the third person in his conversations.

But he has a point. I would rather concentrate on one trade and master it until I become the best on that field than learn everything but never master anything.

That's why I am concentrating on watching different dramas while I do my chores. I don't really care about the story plot, I care more about the acting of the actors and their techniques in portraying their roles. So far I am learning a lot. It excites me.

I feel like a blank canvas that is ready to receive all the colors (learnings) I can have.