Secret Love Nest 2018

Sex

And it happened...

Qing said no to sex.

What the hell?!

(Baba said no to sex? Is it the end of the world already?! What?!)

Stop panicking...jeez.

But you are all right, I made Qing sounds like a sex addict in my diary, right? That's my bad. I think I made a small mistake there. I don't want you guys to think that Qing is a sex addict that has a perpetual hard on and always ready for a fuck.

That is not true and honestly, if Qing is like that, I will leave him. Or at least take him to a hospital to be medicated. I will also ask him, "Why do you have a perpetual hard on? Are you taking viagra in secret?"...

Something like that.

No. Qing and I...we are normal guys in our twenties with healthy appetite for sex, Qing's libido might be more active than mine but not by much. We are quite active with sex, but I think it's still in the normal human being level.

And we don't have sex everyday. Nope. If you guys have a fantasy like that about us, sorry to burst your bubbles or for providing the disillusionment but having sex everyday is not...realistic. Truly not. That's not how we operate as well.

Sex for Qing and I...has a lot of factor. One, we have to be in a private setting. Two, we should both be feeling amorous. Three, we have lube available. Four, cuddling is a must. Five, we are not compromising anything to have sex.

All of those criterias should be checked before Qing and I have sex. Number two and five is important. I mean, we don't force each other to bed and if we have work, we work...there are perfect timing for everything, including making love.

Having said that, we also don't choose the time for sex. If we both feel like it and we are in private and we have the time, it doesn't matter if it's morning or lunchtime or nightime. We have sex when we feel like it.

I talked to other couples, our situation is not unique.

"Having sex before sleeping at night? So TV drama...I would rather have sex in the morning or afternoon instead of night when all I want to do is rest and sleep after working the whole day."

There...some couples chose to have sex during daytime rather than at night. But it's a case to case to basis and like I said, Qing and I consider more what we feel and the place instead of the time.

Having explained all that...Qing is refusing sex.

He is just not in the mood.

And no...before you start jumping in unfounded conclusion, Qing still loves me and still finds me desirable...he just have too much things on his mind to think about sex.

(Why do we feel like you are giving us a quote?)

Because I am. Qing told me those words.

Me: (after receiving a no for sex) You don't love me anymore.

Qing: (rolling his eyes) I still love and desire you, I just have too much in my head to think about sex right now.

Me: Oh...okay...it's just, it's been 4 days now since we last made love. And I thought...

I felt my cheeks flushing. I also look down at myself. I am only wearing a white thin oversize long sleeve shirt. It's to seduce Qing, but he is proving to be unseduceable. If that is a real word.