#DLSUFreedomWall54520My dad's lover & my mom's bad habit
My dad used to complain a lot about my mom and her bad habit. It's like their marriage just got wasted, dahil he was never really happy with her. How was I able to say this? My siblings and I grew up on our own with no mom to take care of us. Our dad was there for us the whole time, with no wife para damayan siya.
When my brother got married (all my siblings are now married) last 2016, my dad met his ex girlfriend and from that on, nagkaroon na sila ng connection. The woman used to bring him pasalubong or visit us at home, especially kapag nagkakasakit si dad. The cycle went until now. Kinaibahan lang, instead of visiting us, my dad and his lover used to call each other sa phone, and everytime my dad feels sad about my mom and how she's almost 24/7 away from us, he'd call her. She's his go-to person, a comfort person na nilalapitan niya palagi. I guess, siguro dahil they are really old na, we didn't treat it as a big deal na, dahil we knew, from the day when we saw how my dad felt happiness again, na doon lang niya nararamdaman 'yung care at pagkakaroon ng karamay. Ofc, nasaktan ako before para sa mom ko, pero siguro gano'n talaga, kapag pati kami mismong mga anak nila ramdam 'yung pangungulilala ng tatay ko. So ayon nga, my mom's out again, and she just got all his income without him knowing it, ngayon lang nalaman. Kanina lang, he called his lover and they talked about it. I saw how he badly wanted to cut the vows, pero dahil nandito pa akong anak nila, umaasa pa rin siyang magbabago siya. :( My dad is a really good father and husband. He does everything for us. He gives us everything he has. He cares for my mom a lot. He cooks for us and does all the chores when my mom cannot do them & when I'm away. How can I blame my dad? How can I blame him if he has developed his feelings for his lover? My mom is 100% aware of it but hinahayaan niya lang. She knows too well that my dad couldn't leave her. It's been 50 years since kinasal sila, and she never changed for better. He's cheating, but with our situation, from a daughter who sees the lacking of my mom, it's hard to stop him.
While my mom?
You know what my mom used to do? Dinevote niya lang naman buong buhay niya sa ibang tao, while us? We grew up on our own. She's physically here. Dito siya natutulog at umuuwi, but maghapon wala siya. She wasted our money, business, and income. She always lends money sa ibang tao, pero hindi siya binabayaran. Hindi ko alam, I'm really tired of my mom. :( Sobra. Dumating na 'ko sa punto na gusto ko nang ayain dad ko na umalis kami sa bahay, para pag-uwi ni mom sa gabi, wala kami, and maybe then she might realize kung gaano niya kami binalewala. :(
It's been 50 years, mom. My dad's still waiting for you to change. We are still waiting for you.
So ayon, the reason why I shared this is gusto ko sanang hingin ang thoughts, opinion, or advice n'yo about this and on what we should do to make mom realize what she's been missing. :( Please, the practical ones. We have talked about this na, but she never changed. :< I want to leave na.
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