Univeristy Confessions 2

[The Elbi Files]

Saw the dad cheating story and I also just wanted to share with yall - HOW MY MOM CHEATED ON MY DAD. Hopefully ma-post 'to. Long post ahead!

I was 19 when I had this sneaking suspicion that my mom was indeed hiding something from us for a long time already. A little backstory: My mom works in Hong Kong for almost 10 years, I think.. then suddenly moved to Macau. Every year naman siya nagbabakasyon before. My parents relationship wasn't that toxic, it was particularly great given that I'm their only child.

One day, I snooped around my mom's facebook and one profile caught my attention. The profile picture of the guy has the same looking area with my mom's profile pic, as far as I recall, it was definitely in Macau. I asked my mom who that guy is, and eventually told me na nagkataon lang siguro kasi the guy's in Macau too, kilala lang daw niya from a friend (naniwala naman ako). I also told my dad about this and he even confronted my mom, and somehow got the same answer. Pero part of me di 100% naniwala, there's always this sense of betrayal.

Fast forward, mom took a vacation from work, umuwi siya sa pinas. She even planned a vacation for us three in Davao (mom's fam side) - birthday din kasi ng lolo ko, it was typically a family reunion. All is well, not until I noticed that my mom is always on her laptop, smiling?????? it was to the point that she would never let me look at her laptop screen while she's on fb, etc. OK now her actions got me more and more suspicious. I couldn't confront her again this time, she will probably be very defensive and lie about it, like I'm crazy and don't know what I'm talking about. Naturally after what I've seen, this put my paranoia into overdrive - that I really have to do something! As far as I really don't want to invade my mom's privacy, I decided to install a keylogger on her laptop.

Back home after our vacation trip, while my mom was probably in the shower. I got into her laptop and IT WORKED! I obtained info from her facebook and skype. On one of the chat logs she was definitely flirting with the guy I asked her about (the conversation was in ilonggo but I managed to understand some basics words). I couldn't control my tears back then. My dad saw me crying, he asked me what was happening and I showed him everything. I could see from his eyes the disgust and anger, by this time my mom got out of the shower and eventually know what was happening. This led to a huge fight between them. My mom was so mad at me, and even pointing fingers at me. While my dad tries to confront her without physically hurting each other. After calming down, my mom was feeling sorry. Me and my dad decided to give her a second chance. I hated my mom that time, but we started to make up and become okay with each other about a week later.

Me and my dad obviously was able to forgive her. Mom started being her own self again, all attention is on us, super lambing nila ni dad, and eventually we've moved on after what happened. Our trust issues yet again, was needed to be tested. Bumalik siya sa Macau, she have to finished her contract pa. A year later, I received a message from an unknown user on fb, saying na it's better na pauwiin na lang namin si mama. I asked the person why, and got no response. So, I told my dad about this. I was so mad. Thinking, ok not agaaaaain!! We contacted my mom and she replied: ""baka may gusto lang sumira sa akin, wag na lang pansinin"". I even asked my titas (kapatid ni mama) if they know something - WALA raw. Then the user messaged me again. This has shock me more. S/he told me that my mom is now pregnant. I told everyone about this but to NO LUCK my mom didn't reply anymore and also my tita's (only to realised na pinagtatakpan lang nila si mama). Now we all know she kept seeing the guy secretly. She didn't not try to reach us anymore. I guess she's not even sorry? From what I've gathered from chronic stalking: Eventually, the pregnancy was true. She had another child with the same guy she was having an affair with.

My dad was just tired and was too depressed to even care at this point. So am I. So basically mom cheated on us for nearly 2 years. I can't let what she has done really affect our life. I'm an adult now, turning 22. Last year my mom tried reaching for me thru chats because I just graduated. But I can't just forgive her.. yet. Idk for now? Who knows. I am still very angry.

This has been a very long story. Cheating fucking suck big time! For some reason I really thought it would be easier to handle this at my age, but nope. Those times were some of the hardest. When I will become a mom myself, if at all possible I won't ever put my children to what my mom put me through.

Onlichildnomoar, 2013, CAS