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Girl problem (1)

Hii even tho i didnt meet u i can say u got amazing personality and girl god bless u!!! Here's my problem: My best friend is really concerned about me and even i am concerned about her.she had a relationship with a guy who ditched her very badly but she still loves him even after acknowleging that he likes another girl she attemted suicide for 2 times but she failed. I want her to move on actually whenever i talk bad about that guy she start to cry and she takes blame on herself but whenever i talk to him about her she is very happy even though he says nasty things to her she is happy cause i tried to help her i really want her to move onn please help!

-Ashley

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Dear Ashley, 

Thank you for that <3 

Seems to me like she is too attached and is let's say under the influence of an emotional abusive relationship which is saying that they don't hear the words only knowing that the person that they want is saying them.. Now I've never really given advice for this kind of situation before because as someone whos had friends been abused in some kind of way in a relationship they never ever listen to me... and it's because they don't want to hear all of this stuff of moving on and all that.. they are basically emotional driven.. which is dangerous.. now the only way she is going to move on is if she finds in herself to know that everything that happened between this guy and her was not her fault. She has to realize that some other guy is going to treat her better than this guy and hopefully if you can find that guy for her that would be awesome. Make sure she knows her worth. Make sure she knows how beautiful she really is and maybe even remind her that no guy should effect her happiness and her will to live. I know it's tough but sometimes you just got to hug that person so tight til things are alright again. 

I hope this helps even just a little bit <3

BAM