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When I found your first advice column, which I am forever grateful for finding, it never crossed my mind that I would be the one writing to you and asking for advice, but here we are. My problem might not seem as if it is important or a huge deal, however I find myself in need of some advice and who better to go to than you?

I have been going to the same school for about 5 years now. I started back in fifth grade (I live in the U.S. so sorry if you or anyone reading this has a different education system.) and have now finished my freshman year of high school. Great right? Only problem is, I'm changing schools. Now I'm not exactly a shy person or anything and I'm not too terrible at making friends, however my previous school was incredibly small. My class was the largest with 24 freshman total. The school itself was one big family. Everyone knew everyone, plain and simple. My new school has over 2700 kids total! That's about 600 or so kids in each grade! I know there are larger high schools, but for me that is mind boggling. My dilemma, how am I going to make any friends when everyone will have already established their friendships and "social groups" their freshman year? Not to mention, where am I going to sit at lunch? Plus, my previous school had uniforms, so for five years I didn't really have to worry about what I wore because we were all wearing the same thing. What about my new school? You guessed it, no uniforms. What do I wear?

So I guess what I'm asking is 1. How do I make friends with those who already have friends for at least a year? 2. Where do I sit at lunch esp. on the first day? 3. What do I wear esp. on the first day? and 4. Do you have any other tips about surviving high school? Please help!

Thanks,

xx NewGirlOnEdge

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Dear NewGirlOnEdge,

Firstly I wanted to apologize for taking so long to respond to you. I'm grateful to you for taking the time to read my other advice columns and now writing in yourself.

1. making friends with people that already friends is actually not that hard. A lot of people are actually willing to be friends if you try to become their friend. Now seeing as your the new girl you get kinda more attention and some people will try to become friends with you just because you are new and those people that do says a lot about what kinda person they are so just be yourself and you'll do great cx

2. Ah lunch.. Well usually you should try to make at least one friend before your lunch period and see if they have the same period as you so then you could ask to sit with them or you could look around to people that you think is friendly/ an available seat to sit at or of course depending how your school looks just find somewhere most comfortable and convenient for you. And when I say that I mean find a place closest to your next class so you won't have to rush to get to it after. You could also try and make friend at this time with people just around the area that you sit in.

3. Wear something that expresses who you are and how you want people to perceive you. A little more than what you wear daily or go to the store or mall with and a little less than what your wear formally. So find a common ground and take note of the weather also. A pair of nice jeans and a shirt is always acceptable c:

4. Don't get sucked into the drama, squash or avoid rumors as soon as possible, learn to stick up for yourself, avoid starting drama, always be yourself, never try to fit into a group that will change you. Oh and always hang in the right crowd and avoid peer pressure. Don't forget it's high school, if it's bad it will be over eventually and you won't have to face whatever it is that made it bad later in life. Just have fun and enjoy yourself. Don't let any guy make you cry or distract you from your studies and try to get involved in some after school activities as well c: Other than that good luck ^.^

BAM