Ask BAM ~A wattpad advice column~

Love Problem (6)

Hi BAMbooks! Well I need advice lately & well sometimes my friends don't understand or can't help so I seen that u have given good advice so my problem is two boys. The first one had I meet a year ago & well we flirted but never commited  to a relationship but then I found out that the whole time he had a gf I was hurt but I still had feelings for him but I keep telling him to leave me alone but later on changing my mind cause I missed him.  at the same time I had been talking to this guy but as friends & when I finally told the first guy to leave me alone I noticed that I started to smile more than ever when texting the second guy & every time I had received a message from him or heard his voice my heart started to beat so fast & later on we started to date we recently broke up it's almost been a month since I broke up with him. I tried to break up with him one time & he said no so we stayed together. I didn't want to but I had I felt that he was being more distant making so many excuses to me or kept lagging it & when I broke up with he just said let's be friends as if were bound to happen. & I was okay with that I told my friends that it was whatever that i had been think about it for a month & my friends said that I changed since we broke up& realized I started to push my friends away especially my BFF/sister that now has a boyfriend. But now that we talk as friends he keeps calling me the nicknames he called me when we were together & like I see his fb & theirs status him hanging out  with other girls but i shouldn't be jealous right, but it's weird like one minute they are there & the next they are gone like if he were hiding it from me but maybe it's just me trying to see if there something to save of us.. & he said to me that I didn't have what he need that he had felt that way for the last two months of our almost 5 months...but a week before I broke up with my ex the first guy started to talk to me & he said that he still love but lied when I ask him if he  was with his girl but to be honest I didn't break up with my ex cause of him... & felt nothing when he said that he said he loves me & today my ex messaged me asking when was I down to hang out I want to see him & just be with him cause I still love him & then first guy messaged me saying & "proving" that he & his girl broke up. I don't know what to do. Do I still love the first guy? Should I hang out with my ex & see if he still have feelings? Does he still have feelings for me or am I getting my hopes up? 

Sincerely

- Cari

_____________

Dear Cari, 

I think in this kind of situation, it's more difficult to sort through because you are involved with two guys. One guy that you talked to when he had a gf you didn't know about and another that you dated but doesn't seem to think you have what he needs. In truth I wouldn't be involved with both of them. One was talking to you while having a gf.. who knows if he'd do that to you, do you really want that for yourself? Then you have the second who seems to be saying Oh I'm too good for you. With that I'd say to stay friends if possible but don't go back to someone who doesn't appreciate everything you are. So do you love the first guy? I don't think you are. Should you hang out with your ex? Yeah you can but just as friends. Don't try to look into it too much either or get yours hopes up. Just be neutral. 

BAM