BUKU MAKNYAH

TALKING ABOUT GENDER

Your body can only consume a certain lot. Let's say weight, diets, and emotion. As much as we want to think that we are smart and diligent finding information, there will be moments that left us wondering, what is still wrong?

Indirectly while searching for the meaning of life we were introduced to culture and religion - which became rules and order that we think if it were strictly followed will enhance our well-being. (It works to some but not all)

The business of respecting gender in the new milieu got braver:

1. Because you want to be heard

2. Your aim for happiness

3. Clearer vision while reading the world and human

4. To fight rejection and one direction assumption of the majority

5. Seeking for personal rights which were denied all these while

Those who suffered on gender norms at a very young age felt alone, no acceptance, seeking for the solution in fear. It's very normal as a human. Internet access and new age technology allow them to digest all sorts of academic and medical information.

Then each one of them will decide to take any kind of action for the sake of personal well-being. Feeling stuck due to fear, guilt, pressure by family members/society is a point where they will have to continue seeking for a solution. Many fall ill, depressed and uneasy till the end of their lives.

Similar to reasons which they created out of social background and fear, some are able to shoulder those pain and some just died bringing along dreams and ambitions into the grave.

NOTES: Gender diversity has always been around in any culture, the arrival of modernization governance and religion as rules of life created some new shifts among us. Think Hijras, Fafafini, Two-spirits, Waria, Pondan, Sister-lady, Darai, Bapok and beyond... They do not need to be stifled on their growth and development (very gifted and can do wonders)

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Badan kita hanya mampu menanggung takat tertentu sahaja. Katakanlah berat badan, pemakanan dan emosi. Kita mungkin berfikir bahawa kita ini bijak dan rajin mencari informasi, ada ketikanya ia mebuatkan kita tercari cari, apakah yang masih salah?

Secara tidak langsung dalam pencarian erti hidup kita diperkenalkan pada hal budaya dan agama – yang akhirnya menjadi peraturan yang kita fikir sekiranya dipatuhi akan menjadikan kita sejahtara.

Urusan agar patuh pada gender di alaf baharu menjadi semakin berani.

1. Kerana kita berani bersuara

2. Kita mahu membahagiakan diri

3. Mata semakin terang membaca dunia manusia

4. Menentang penolakan dan tafsiran sehala majoriti

5. Meminta hak hak peribadi yang ditidakkan selama ini.

Mereka yang bermasalah tentang gender seringnya di usia awal merasa diri bersendirian, tidak ada penerimaan, tercari cari solusi dalam ketakutan. Ia sesuatu yang normal sebagai manusia. Akses internet dan penerangan alaf baharu membenarkan mereka yang ragu tentang sebarang keraguan gender menilai segala penerangan akademik dan medikal.

Setelah itu mereka masing masing akan mengambil langkah wajar demi sejahatera peribadi. Tersangkut kerana masih takut, merasa bersalah, himpitan dari ahli keluarga/masyarakat adalah tahap di mana peribadi itu harus terus mencari penawar. Ramai yang jatuh sakit, murung dan resah sehingga di hujung hidup.

Sama seperti alasan yang direka bersabit dengan latar hidup dan kebaranian yang tidak wujud, ada yang mampu tanggung dan ada yang menghembuskan nafas membawa bersama hasrat dan kemahuan yang tidak tergapai.

NOTA: Diversiti gender sudah lama wujud dalam sebarang budaya, kehadiran pemerintahan baharu dan agama sebagai aturan hidup mengakibatkan pergeseran sesama manusia. Fikirkan Hijras, Fafafini, Waria, Pondan, Darai, Bapok, Sisterlady, Bakla, Bencong dan senarainya berturusan... Mereka tidak perlu ditekan pada peningkatan dan pembangunan peribadi (mereka berbakat dan mampu memberi kejutan).