CONVERSATION

FINDING THE ONE...

"Ada ker orang yang nak ke saya makayam? Gemok, tak lawa macam ni..."

"I need a man who can be my friend, lover and father to my children"

"i mati mati ingat dia The One...it turns out Penipu Besar, laki orang rupanya"

"He has to be...this and that...bla bla bla....owh how nice..."

"i think i want to find something like Neelofa or Nora Danish at least...."

Human and their search for The One...some call it soul mate...some don't even bother to think about it.

Ada jodoh adalah...hmmm....

Human, puberty and when hormone runs amok can be very confusing. To add salt to injury we succumb to romantic notion that it will end up like novels we read, sitcom we watched, main character that is full of promises  and those lifestyles our hearts allow us to mesmerize.

In the west it could be easier compared to here in our country. Being in a Muslim country it seems only those attractive ones are able to test ride journey of finding the one, even doesn't ensure you to one thing sexual activities. Haram. 

Now you know why in Asia people are crazy over weight loss programs and skin lighting process. Each  one of them wanted to appear attractive so that the route of finding the one is easier. It's heart wrenching to hear them whining about difficulties finding the right partner, especially when the biological clock is ticking fast.

This is when we commit mistakes and soon will regret.

1. Rushing to end up with whatever as long as it will do

2. having to start all over again to adjust our lifestyles or maybe our behaviors

3. not happy having to please others 

4. incapable to carry extra burden that you didn't foresee 

5. coping with totally opposite characteristics that went against your policies as an individual.

YOU DARE TO START A RELATIONSHIP?

1. getting to know him/her in total

2. no desire to change him/her at all (accepting it as it is)

3. put up with nuisance that will tag along

4. adapting some kind of tolerance that you are not used to.

5. Acceptance whole heartedly (including sacrificing certain emotions) 

I may not be RELATIONSHIP expert, but i dare to tell you that finding the one is not easy. When you meet, there is some kind of magic. Pause first, scrutinize properly, decide and go with the flow. It's an effort when two person mutually want to work it out. One side? Hoping the man to be wise? Saying i am okay and anything will do will not help.

Like any partnership business venture, both parties has to work hard on it. This time around the business of making a relationship works. 

How do we detect a good relationship?

1. both will feel happy and easy when they meet.

2. able to discuss, agree to disagree, respect with no grudge 

3. sex will always be good (many refuse to discuss about it, some will tell you sex is not major)

4. nobody is dominant or lead. It's just a matter of things taken into consideration all time

5. tolerances at the sincerest level.

6. Both are always willing to keep working on that chosen path (partnership)

Remember girls and boys, while you are complaining not able to find THE ONE..soul mate, there are many others are having domestic problems.

i would suggest those with no hopes due to impossible physical requirements of the opposite sex, if you are fat, ugly, with sexuality problem or anything, please try to find healthy ways of being happy while living. Quit those romantic notion you have in mind, but do not be bitter. Bitterness kills.

Why sacrifice cheaply your freedom for anything not worthit?

Find the joy of being alone...concentrate to some good causes...kill your 24 hours daily with aplomb.

Ask me again what is the one?

THE ONE to me personally means finding GOD... not that terrible partner or difficult human kind.

....but i am still waiting for Keanu Reeves, we will be happy together..or so my mind has cheated me!