life updates for anyone who cares

self-concept and atomic habits

so i was continuing atomic habits yesterday and i came across this chapter that said the best change starts with identity, systems and leads to outcomes. and that your "goals" should focus on identity rather than outcome bc true change only happens when you are thinking about yourself as embodying what you are trying to become and that!!! makes!!! so much sense!!! 

like if i want to lose my belly fat, i start to tell myself firstly that i am an athlete, and im not into sweets and that it is easy for me to achieve what i have bc i am an athlete. 

yesterday, i was discussing my flaw of inadaptability with my husband and i realised that i am completely wrong about myself. its not true that im not good at adapting, bc ive adapted so well into this married life, into cooking&cleaning as well as doing THREE units of uni AND owning a business????

ive gotta stop underestimating myself. ik what i am, and i am a versatile piece of work and i dont give up. i look at my SIL and take inspiration, she has a kid, she cooks and cleans and is fun to be around most times. and her dedication is what gets me. she is such a dedicated person even when its hard to be

like hello sis??? im directly involved in the business, in my uni, in my home life and i still got time on my hands to write this stuff down and exercise and sleep. 24 hours is plenty of time during the day and i wanna use it to its fullest potential

but i wanna write this here as EVIDENCE that i adapt really well with situations. 

ive adapted so well living with my husband and his family and i fit right in, alhamdulilah we have no issues