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MIL being an a-hole

what else is new? today, my aprents invited my in-laws for a bbq and wow, im acc done with my family inviting them.. its so embarrassing how much they dont respect my parents - my stupid MIL and FIL. im so embarrassed that shes my MIL seriously.

so right after she got there, she called my SIL S.A who was asking what to bring and mama and i both insisted she bring nothing bc there is literally nothing to bring???? like everything is already done youre asking really late, the bbq is happening. 

anyway, and then MIL makes a joke like "oh you know what a minimalist ava is.. just bring a cake or smth" like what an actual witch.

but that wasnt a big deal bc im aware she thinks im a minimalist and honestly i'd rather be a minimalist than a materialistic retard who doesnt know the value of things so she just hoards everything.

and then, basically my MIL's sister moved closer to where mama lives (and lots of people are moving there now) so mama suggested MIL move too, to be closer to everyone and then like a salty witch she goes "why would we come to p***tons ? you guys are obviously renting so was my sister, we're gonna move there and youre gonna leave us" - basically it was a jab at my parents for not owning a house yet, and i swear i wanted to say, youre paying the same for a mortgage every week for 30 years - how is that different from paying rent?

idiots, all of them, in the system. anyway mama became awkward and walked away. and the other two aunties that were with us also became awkward and tried to laugh it off. shes so frkn pathetic and uptight, she needs to get a grip.

and then one of the autnies, she has 3 sons and shes the typical mumma's boy archetype - encourages mumma's boy, and shes just gonna be toxic ah as a MIL. she said smth like "i dont wanna share my kitchen with anyone (talking about her future DIL)' and then my stupid MIL goes "dw, you have to have a lot of patience and you have to sacrifice your things for them, and dont worry if they break things. theres been things broken in my house and ive been glad bc now i can get smth new. ill teach you everything once you become a MIL"... all indirect jabs at me.. ive broken 1-2 items in the house ... like grow up - and im the one sacrificing the right to my own house to live under your 'favours' upon us - no thanks. i'd rather eat concrete.

and finally to top it all off, i told her, like a dumbass that i was gonna work with her bc shes really stressed out all the time and agreed to monday and tuesday - i was expecting my own laptop etc from the college but i guess they cant afford it or smth - so i told her i dont have a laptop (i gave it away to my little brother after his hsc) and so she says smth like "everytime i trust someone, theyre not as reliable as me.. and everytime i regret it" and this was in front of EVERYBODY. like literally everyone. im not even annoyed that i didnt tell her about my pregnancy yet. she doesnt deserve to know. she deserves to know with everyone unimportant.

the reason im annoyed is bc whya re you saying these things in front of EVERYONE? like do you not have any self-respect? you cant keep a cover on the private things in life? you gotta air it out to the world? you meet these people for the first time and this is the type of crap you say.. making them think that youre being tortured or smth at home? a prisoner in your own house? i wanna move out now. like yesterday. i cant take any more of this.

but also i did istikhara when my husband asked me to do it in regards to working with her... and this is what happens 2 days later in front of strangers. well, thats it. im not working with her for longer than a month - shes insufferable.