life updates for anyone who cares

rishta

so ive received a proposal from someone who is name *b*a*k*a*r and hes... quite attractive. apparently hes big and muscly, too so thats a plus

BUTTT hes 27 years old. I'm not sure how i feel about that if im being completely honest. hes also 5'9 and his parents are divorced. his brothers are quite old and unmarried also (35, 31, sister is 30) so idk how that family dynamic looks.

idk if they've all been traumatised from marriage bc of their parents' divorce (prob a messy divorce) and how that would translate to home-life. bc his 30 yo lets call her B .. still doesnt know how to cook and does NOT want to get married. ik ik, im not a big 'cook' either but i atleast have a goal in mind to know how to cook properly by the time im like 22-23 ..

but idk smth about that rubs me the wrong way.

he says he lives with his mum but he goes to his dad's house to eat and im not sure if his dad was really there with the kids emotionally after the separation.

it kind of hurts my heart to think of how traumatised they truly must be if none of them except one has gotten married. it must have been recently or smth where they stopped believing in love.

but im not sure how again, that helps my convo of taking this rishta seriously but maybe i will figure it out by writing it down. writing helps me focus everything bc now the info dump is somewhere so i can come back to it an think about it.

anyways, he also said he stopped teaching bc he thought the kids were just very disrespectful .. adn again that struck me bc i was like, i mean yea, like kids ARE rude. its up to you and your disciplinary strength and how well you control that situation as well. it tests your patience but as a 27 year old MAN, you should be able enough to know how to deal with that situation.

also, the fact that hes the youngest i feel like is relevant... bc from my research an eldest girl and a youngest boy end up being a good couple.

also the fact that hes an aries and im a sag... ahhaha

what??

i dont believe in that...

but ye its pretty confusing

bc he is 27 but the fact that hes ATTRACTIVE, BUFF, EDUCATED, HAS A JOB, IS LOADED kind of helps

but im just unsure if he can take the pressure from his family.. if he cant take it from high school kids..

but again that kind of comes with more experience.. perhaps when he has his own kids... it would be different