life updates for anyone who cares

i feel supported :')

you know how i said it feels like its me against the  world, lately bc of this rishta? well. Allah proved me wrong. my family really is on my side. and im grateful for having open-minded parents who allowed me to place forth my condition of living in a granny flat - in other families, this is unspeakable.

my dad  really gave him an earful (poor guy) yesterday, basically echoing all my thoughts to him and basically told him that these questions will exist in any family/girl's mind"

-"if youve mentioned that you cant deal with pressure, then how is this ideal for any girl?"

-"if you want a bakri (sheep) then you can get someone from pakistan, who will listen to everything that you say. otherwise if you want someone from australia, you will have to accept or expect these types of requests."

- "who will you first greet when you enter the house?" - he answered his mum - "well, your wife will be upset that you met her first. and if you meet your wife first, your mum will be upset. youre not understanding that women cannot live together and they dont like sharing. this whole situation will only be difficult for you."

-"she (me) said that she'd be okay with living for 6 months, no more, and then move in the granny flat. picture yourself in her shoes... where you have to put yourself in the middle of 6 people and adjust with all of them. all she wants is some alone time (2-4 years) with you alone and then shes okay with moving back in. but its not gonna be plausible for you two to get along if everyone else is also involved in your relationship" when my dad mentioned the 6 months thins, he was acting surprised  as if i hadn't told him the same thing the night before to which my dad said: "... she already has told you all this.. why are you surprised? so hidayah was right to say that you werent listening  to anything that she said and kept repeating  'but my mum' to her"

FRKN SAVAGE.

honestly tho, i feel truly supported by my parents. and im very honoured to call them my parents. i dont feel pressured and my dad gets the fact that this rishta is trying to take the complacent and easy route and thats not on. anyways im so grateful for my family!!!!! UGHHHHH IM so happy wallahi that my parents understand that my condition is not unrealistic or "too much" but acc very valid. here's to hoping that his mum can convince him of the same and that Allah can make him understand bc honestly only God can make men understand.