Aroace thoughts/rants

Me or him

So I was on TikTok and came across this video and it's a clip form a show or movie I don't even know what it's called. I have little context here so I probably shouldn't be talking about this but I want to so keep in mind I don't have a lot of context.

These two girls who seem to be friends are arguing. I don't even known their names I think one is named Nadine and we're gonna call the other one Jenna.

So Nadine is upset at Jenna about the guy she's dating and says he's just gonna end up dumping her but she has had her back since second grade. So far I'm on Nadine's side, her best friend is with a guy who she doesn't think cares for her. And this guy actually is her twin? I think they're twins. It's her brother. Twin or not he's Nadine's brother.

Then Jenna says that he actually asked her to be is girlfriend and to go go prom with him. And Nadine does but like that so she's like "me or him you have to choose you can't have both"

Like girl I was on your side until you said that. Like, I don't know this show and don't know what kinda guy your brother is but if he's actually a good guy you shouldn't make your best friend chose between the two of you.

Like, I know it sucks when your best friend chooses their s/o over you but I wouldn't want to take away throat choice. I'd rather my best friend chose both and it sucks that sometimes that doesn't happen but I could never be the one to force them to chose and except them to chose me no matter how badly I wanna be their first choice.

And if her brother is a jerk and will do her friend more harm then good, she shouldn't push her friend away by making her choose she should find another way to warn Jenna about her brother and if Jenna doesn't listen Nadine should still be there for her when Jenna needs someone to turn to when she gets hurt even if she tried to warn her.

Again I don't have full context so I could be misreading the situation but I don't think it's fair to make someone chose best friend or lover. I mean I know if I had to chose I'd obviously chose best friend because I don't have a lover... but like it's hard for me to put this in the right words.

Deep down, yeah I want my friends to chose me over their boyfriends. Sometimes I think that makes me selfish but then I realize everyone wants to be a first choice to someone. It's a human thing to want to be loved.

But even though I would love to be my friends first choice, I'm not gonna leave them if they chose their boyfriend over me. I don't know if it's because I don't have anyone else so I'll take second or third or fourth place or what.

I guess the aromantic version of this is a friend making me chose between them or another friend. I wouldn't want to chose and in my head I'd go with the one that's not making me chose but I wouldn't wanna lose any of them so it's kinda an unfair position to put someone in.

So yeah. That's all I have to say.

Thanks for listening and I hope you all have a great and wonderful day/night. Take care 💚💜