2 types of people
"There are two types of people in this world. First are those who want the feeling of being in a relationship but craving for the freedom of being single. Second, those who want to feel loved and just be in a perfect relationship. In our generation, we view things like chalk and cheese. We are living in a world wherein we act, think, and opt far different from what our grandparents grew up to. What am i talking about? Listen to this...
In the past, people are so fond of being in a consistent relationship. I mean, when they say that they are in love with someone, they are really in love with someone. They will stick to that one person who they think is the right one for them. They are firm to their decision of choosing that person as to be their partner. Why do they do that? It's because they feel so secure about their verdict. They feel really secure in that person's presence. They just know that he or she is the one. They do that because they are in love with the person itself. In our time, people are more in love with the idea of having someone to be there when they need them. We are in love with the attention that we could get from that person. But what do we do? We play around like a stupid kid because we are afraid to settle. We are afraid to commit. We want the feeling of having a special someone but also the freedom of being single. "There are many fishes in the sea" is the best sentence that i could rely to in explaining this. We want to find that one fish but then there are a lot of fish that could distract you from choosing the right one.
I remember the day when my friend told me about his present relationship with a certain girl. He told me that there was a problem with the girl he's dating because she wanted him to text her every day, she wanted for him to pick up her calls every single time, and she doesn't want him to text her very shortly because according to the girl, that gives her an idea that he is not interested to her. Well i could say that the girl is a little bit of a psycho. Haha she even told my friend that they should stop seeing each other. (that's kinda OA actually) I was surprised about what my friend told me. He said "kung ayaw niya na talaga, okay lang naman sakin eh. Alam mo yun. Okay lang na umalis na siya. Di ako masasaktan pero malulungkot lang ako ng konti". And then i told him "Alam ko kung bakit mo sinasabi yan. You want the feeling of being in a relationship but then you want the freedom that you can get when you're single". And true enough, i was right. We do things because we want to feel something. Believe it or not, we are not that interested with that person we call our special someone. We just love the idea of being "kilig" because who doesn't, right? Yes. We like that but at the back of our minds, we also want to be free. We want to have someone and at the same time enjoy the company of others. And as what i've told you, that doesn't work so well.
As for me, there are two things why we settle for this kind of set up. It's either we want to have someone to fall back to when it don't work with others or we just don't have any choice but that one person who is present. Trust me, you are not just hurting the other person, you are also hurting yourself. You are convinced that there will always be someone who'll be there for you when things don't work out your way. But what if one day, that one person you think you can rely to all the time gets tired? What if he or she doesn't want to be with you anymore? What if she gets weary? If this happens, the joke will be on you. Yes, you'll get sad but sooner or later, you'll get hurt. You will find a way to get him or her back. You will realize that you were wrong. You can't just play with people like they are toys. You can't just be there and then leave whenever you want to. That is unfair. Just imagine, what if that happens to you? Would it be okay? What would you feel? Try to put yourself into that person's situation.
So if you are reading this, make up your mind. I want you to think first before doing something. Always think of the consequences. Be certain about your actions. If you don't really like that person, do something. Tell them directly. Don't make their hopes high. Inform them about what you really feel. Don't give them the idea that you are in love with them and then leave them hanging. If you really like the person, tell them. Make them feel that you want them. Do something to make them stay. Don't give them any reason to think twice about choosing you. If you love them, be proud about it. Tell the whole world that you are madly in love with that person. I just want you to settle with someone with the right reason, because if you settle with the wrong intentions you might hurt someone who doesn't deserve to be hurt."
trish
2013
Institute of Arts and Sciences (IAS)
FEU Manila
