Women, read this.
"Okay, first and foremost, hindi ko intensyon na i-ridicule yung first post na correlated dito. As a matter of fact, I kinda agree on what the sender had to say. Pero girls, we all have our own opinions. And well, that post only covered what the girls want the boys to do. Wala man lang bang magtatanong about what a guy thinks? What we feel about how we got hastily generalized without knowing why we do our thing in the first place? Let me break it down for you guys real quick. But first, let me be clear. I am NOT the representative speaker for the whole population. I am simply a man, preaching for what he believes in with constructive criticism. Guys, if you support me feel free to do so. I'd actually appreciate that.
Let's start off with me. Who's the idiot na gustong maflood ng hormonal teens ng ""Bitter"", ""Walang alam sa pag-ibig"", ""fuccboi"", etc? Well, I was a guy that would've all the things on your list, yeah. I statused a lot of ""parinigs"", torped out of a lot of chances that I was given, wrote long-ass poems for the one I adored, willingly would serenade her every day kahit through the phone lang, would risk his balls being chopped off by her crazy father given the chance we meet, all that and more. I'd be more than willing to do those things, but how many girlfriends did I have? None. Any crushes I confessed to said yes? Zero. You know why?
It's because I was an ""ugly"" nerd.
Yes that's right. When you imagine all those things being done to you girls, I'm pretty sure as hell you don't fantasize guys like me at first thought. Try to remember.
Was called a lot of names, but never once ""boyfriend material"". C'mon guys, wag tayo hipokrito. Sa huli, mas hihigit ang mas gwapo kaysa saamin. Just as mas hihigit ang mga maganda kaysa sa hindi. Kahit mirror image ang attitudes pa namin, siyempre mas pipiliin yung reflection na mas gwapo. Truth hurts, but I accepted it long ago.
Which is why I changed. Nag-ayos ako. Nag-gym/home exercises ako for 2 years, strict diet, puspusang sports training, nagpatangkad. Just so I could maybe, just maybe, find my first (hopefully last) girlfriend. Ngayong college with the better me, it's easier but nonetheless, hard as it could get. Kasi hanggang ngayon, I'm still finding the right person for me.
(Okay that's enough introduction. Baka malaman pa nang iba kung sino ako, and ayoko maka-receive ng death threats for speaking out what's on my mind. :D)
I only have but one objection:
""Don't heighten your standards.""
Alright, before you disagree, hear me out first. Ever wonder bakit usually mga players/fuccbois usually naeend up sa mga matitinong babae? Kasi like it or not, they have the looks, the balls, and the confidence. The personality, pwedeng-pwede mapeke yan'. They have everything you could ask for, pero niloko ka lang pala. You've set the bar so high that only the most ballsy guys could reach it. Habang kami naiwan sa ere, hinihintay namin lang kayong babaan yung bar, para maabot namin kayo. Having balls is as simple as you think, girls.
Isipin niyo to, gagawin namin ng lahat ng gusto niyo, sige.
Pinaramdam na namin sainyo ang tunay naming pagmamahal.
Naging masaya na kami na nahanap na namin ang babaeng mamahalin namin ng tunay.
Tapos 'di rin pala tayo magkakatuluyan. Kami ang unang nagpakita ng mabuting kalooban at pagmamahal. Hindi niyo pa naman gagawin yun hanggat umoo kayo eh.
Kayo ba girls? Hindi ba kayo takot ibigay ang tunay mong sarili para sa isang taong 'di ka naman pala mamahalin? Isn't that one of the biggest risks we have to take? To be seen as we truly are?
And we all know that since guys don't talk about their feelings as often as you guys do, mas mahirap kami mag move-on. (excluding fuccbois)
I've said all that I have to as a man. Just to be clear, suportado ko yung tips ng post na ""Men read this"". This post is just to justify the truth sa ibang parts na naskip out at sa comments rin ng post na medyo biased. To each his own, guys. But I'll be ready for the negative feedback if ever ma post ito.
PS: 'Wag kayo magpadala sa paggamit ng relihiyon or simabahan. I'm not the most religious man in the world, pero if I've heard any pambobola na guamagana pa sa ngayon, that would be it. And I think it's sick. Shame on guys like that."
The Nice Writer in a Black Sweater
2014
Institute of Arts and Sciences (IAS)
FEU Manila
