Kwentong Kolehiyo

Love From My Point of View

What is love? It has a lot of descriptions in the dictionary but I will choose this one “as the feeling felt by a person when he/she feels a passionate affection towards another person.” Why do I choose this? I’ve seen a lot of my friends crying and cursing over this word and trying to forget that it exists. I’ve also seen some friends transform into better people because of it like Goku and his Saiyan Powers (minus the sudden increase in hair volume and muscle mass plus the sudden change in hair color). I just wanted to shed a bit of light to those who might want to read another persons perspective about love. Before continuing further I would like to point out something.

I’m not trying to be some love-guru, I know I’m not a radio-talk show host with a wife and kids in his mid-40’s that throws curses on air just to get a point out. I’m just a college student trying to share to you (reader) the experiences I’ve had until now.

To those who are currently heartbroken, It’s not the end. You will find love again, I can assure you of that. Hindi ka magiging single forever. In this phase, I see a lot of people getting depressed because of the following phrases. Everything was taken from you. You’ve gained nothing from the relationship. Ako na lang ang nag-effort na ayusin ang relationship. Ginamit lang niya ako. He/she doesn’t care anymore. I’ve heard this from a LOT of people. Bakit ganyan? Sadly I have no answer to that, we are given the illusion at the start of the relationship that it COULD last longer than the previous one. (Unless it’s your first relationship, then you must feel like shit) This person COULD be worth it? This person COULD sweep me off my feet. There is a saying that there is no reward without risk. We take the extra leap forward and make the effort to answer his/her question, make the next “move”, go the extra mile, and maybe say yes. What most of us don’t take into account is the fact that ALL relationships end in disaster. Trust me when I say that nothing lasts forever (I’m not trying to be bitter or anything just being realistic). Everything has an end. A day has and end, a show has an end, even life has and end. It is in our nature to blindly believe in something that can give us happiness. I don’t know why though. It is so simple yet inexplainable.

What am I trying to say after all the text you just possibly skipped? This will sound very cliche but there will always be someone better than the last. Think about it for a moment, your last relationship ended up a train wreck. Why? because there’s no connection? di kayo compatible? It wasn’t possible from the start? What do you think is the common reason why relationships don’t work out? Its because experience is the best teacher. Your previous relationship/s will teach you who to look for next (Thanks to the professor who taught me this). It will give you a guide on who could be next, TATAAS NA YUNG STANDARDS MO BRO/SIS. The getting over part though is something impossible for me to help you with, you have to get through this on your own. I know it’s difficult (trust me I’ve been there myself) kung pwede na kitang bigyan ng tap on the back, ibibigay ko na sayo. This will require a lot of reflection, tears, possibly ice-cream but I assure you once you get through this, you will emerge as a better person.

Ok, now to those who are currently in a relationship. Keep it up, I don’t know much to say for you and your special someone. Just keep things “spicy” and adventurous, learn to understand (if you don’t know how to yet), “give and take” (important), and lastly put everything ,that concerns your special someone, with a pinch of love.

Now those in a relationship in the verge of collapsing. I have a few questions to ask you that you must answer yourself. Are you the ONLY one doing all the work? Are you the ONLY one adjusting to his/her situations? Are you the ONLY one making effort to keep it all afloat? Has he/she been in a close relationship with another without your consent? Has he/she cheated on you in the middle of your relationship? Has he/she abused you in any kind of way? (verbal, physical, psychological) Ikaw lang ba ang gumagastos sa pagpapaload sa kanya para lang makausap ka lang niya? (I’m not joking about this one) If you’re answer is mostly yes then assume the worst, these kinds of people have special names. My personal favorite is the “parasite”, these kinds of people are not into love. They prey on the gullible, they leech on you while giving you the illusion that they care about you. I leave the decision to you if you want to believe me or not. My advice is just here as your guide, it’s your decision to take it or leave it.

Now to those who’ve mostly answered the questions with a NO. Have you talked to the person? IF not, please do so, get his/her point of view on the matter. Don’t get angry if he/she doesn’t respond happily or willingly to the matter, it’s natural. Give it some time to boil down. If you did talk to him/her about it maybe you should evaluate yourself. You could be the one just imagining all of this nonsense in the first place. Don’t get mad, it’s natural to be paranoid about some things (You don’t want the worst to happen, right?). Calm down, take some deep breaths and go out for some fresh air (unless if you live in the city, go back inside the air is much fresher in there). Talk to your best friend and share your story. No one knows you better than your parents and your best friend. They will always be there for you.

I know that this doesn’t suit most of the situations you could be facing. I would like to apologize, I know that I still have much to learn.

A.W.C.O. 
2017 
Faculty of Pharmacy